Emotionally focused therapy is based on the scientific study of love and the bonding processes in relationships, is designed to address distress in intimate relationships. Strategies from emotionally focused therapy can be used in couples or family therapy to help the participants connect and improve emotional attachment. Couples seeking counseling to improve their relationships may find this method beneficial, as it can help people better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives.
Therapists who provide emotionally focused therapy typically work with couples and families to help facilitate the creation of secure, lasting bonds between intimate partners and family members and reinforce any preexisting positive bonds, with the goal of helping those in counseling increase security, closeness, connection, and ultimately, happiness and fulfillment.
Allison Zangari, LMFT and LMHC, has extensive training in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
The theory behind emotionally focused therapy is that insecurity in the attachment to one’s partner is the key principle in conflict. This insecurity may mean partners and family members find themselves concerned by questions such as “Do you really love me?” “Am I important to you?” “Are you committed to our relationship?” “Can I trust you?” Emotionally focused therapy can help people address attachment-related insecurities and learn how to interact with their partners/family members in more loving, responsive, and emotionally connected ways, which can result in a more secure attachment and a more fulfilling relationship.